Caregiving during the holidays is extra stressful
The holidays can be a tough time for caregivers. Difficult or insensitive family members are especially hard to deal with when you’re already juggling caregiving, work, grief over past losses, and holiday prep.
We chose 6 top articles that will help you manage the family issues that are likely to come up during this time.
Find out how to reduce stress and anxiety by minimizing surprises, preparing responses to criticism, and planning for difficult conversations.
6 top articles about how to deal with difficult family during holidays
1) How to Prepare Family Before Their Holiday Visit with Seniors
Many families only get together a couple of times a year for big celebrations. You see your older adult all the time, so the way they appear and behave is normal to you.
But for others, it can be quite a shock – especially if they’ve declined since the last get-together. Being surprised could make family members irrationally angry, ignore your older adult, or insist on making unwise changes to their life.
Find out how preparing family before their visit helps you and your older adult and see a sample email letter that you could customize.
2) Caregiving Holiday Tips: 3 Ways to Deal with Difficult Family
Are you struggling with family members who don’t invite you or your older adult to their holiday gatherings? Or maybe they extend an invitation, but don’t consider your older adult’s needs and realistic capabilities.
Or they could get offended when you explain that your older adult can no longer participate in certain family traditions. The worst of all: they might blame YOU for being difficult or overprotective. Get 3 tips that help you deal with these insensitive people and minimize your stress.
3) 3 Effective Ways to Respond to Caregiver Criticism
Getting criticized is unpleasant, especially from family or friends who don’t lift a finger to help care for your older adult.
If you get a hurtful comment, take a deep breath and try to stay as calm as possible. Then, try one of our 3 suggested responses to reduce your stress and hopefully cut down on future comments.
4) 3 Ways to Deal with Family in Denial About Seniors Needing Help
Family caregivers are often frustrated by relatives who are in denial about their older adult’s declining health. Whether it’s about Alzheimer’s, fall risk, or post-stroke recovery, their denial can make you feel angry, stressed out, and frustrated.
For some people, denial is a subconscious way to ignore the fact that their parent is declining. For others, it’s a way to avoid taking on caregiving responsibilities. Get 3 ways to break through their denial.
5) 4 Caregiving Tips for Getting Siblings to Help with Parents
When you’re taking care of your parents, the last thing you need is more stress or resentment because of issues with your siblings.
But getting siblings to help can bring up old family arguments, cause sibling rivalries to flare up, and generally add to your burden. Try these 4 helpful tips to resolve common issues when caregiving with your siblings.
6) Overcome 3 Excuses from Relatives Who Avoid Caregiving
Caring for an older adult by yourself is exhausting and damages your health. Every caregiver deserves and needs help because it’s a 24/7 job that encompasses all areas of life.
One obvious source of support is family. But for many, getting family to help is a challenge. Understanding why they’re behaving this way can help you find ways to get them to join your caregiving team.
Here are three top reasons why family members don’t help with caregiving. After understanding their thinking, use our suggestions to overcome their “reasoning” and get them to actually help out.
No matter what anybody else says, you have every right to adjust the holidays to fit what works best for you and your older adult and to ask for what you need.
Use the tips and suggestions from these 6 articles to help you deal with difficult family members and reduce your stress.
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By DailyCaring Editorial Team