Seniors want to remain in their homes, but need help
In an AARP survey of U.S. seniors, 90% said they want to continue living in their current homes as they age. But the government estimates that 70% of people who reach age 65 will eventually need long-term care. That usually means hiring an in-home caregiver…or moving to assisted living.
Seniors resist getting help
Getting parents to accept in-home help is an issue many families struggle with.
How are we going to tell Dad he needs someone to make sure he eats properly and takes his medication? How do I convince Mom to let someone keep her company and drive her to the grocery store?
Few older adults will admit they need help, even if they’re struggling. There’s a fear that they’ll become a burden or completely lose independence. It becomes a sensitive subject and can lead to arguments or immediate shutdown when families bring it up.
3 tips for talking with parents about needing help
To help you talk with your parents about in-home help, CareLinx CEO Sherwin Sheik recently shared 3 tips he’s learned from helping families find caregiving help.
Tip #1. Don’t tell them they need a caregiver
This is one of the best tips we’ve ever heard. Don’t tell your parent they need a caregiver to help or monitor them.
Instead, talk about how they’ve reached a point in their life where they deserve a personal assistant to make life easier and smoother. Use an example from the working world. In an office, an administrative assistant helps the boss with everyday tasks.
Tip #2. Include your parent in the decision making to help them feel in control
Your older adult will be the one spending time with the hired caregiver, so it’s important that there’s a good personality fit between them. Involve your parent in the interview and selection process. Giving seniors a say in hiring makes it more likely that they’ll accept that person in their lives.
Tip #3. Set up a long term caregiving relationship
After you’ve done the hard work of convincing your parent to accept help and finding an amazing caregiver, it’s important to create a long term relationship with that caregiver. Having a revolving door of caregivers won’t benefit your parent or you!
Talking to parents about home care is a difficult, but important conversation. Use Sherwin’s three tips to overcome resistance and increase the chances that your older adult will accept the idea.
By DailyCaring Editorial Staff
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