Why wouldn’t someone believe they have dementia?
Family caregivers often ask “how do you tell someone they have dementia”? And in some cases, the answer may be that you simply can’t.
When that happens, it’s called anosognosia (pronounced ah-no-sog-NOH-zee-uh, hear it here). The word literally means “to not know a disease” and it’s much more than being in denial.
We explain what it means when someone has anosognosia and doesn’t believe they have dementia and why it’s different from denial.
We also share 6 suggestions for helping someone with anosognosia who doesn’t want assistance, but clearly needs it.
What is anosognosia in dementia?
Anosognosia is a condition that causes someone to be unaware of their mental health condition and how it affects them. It’s common in some conditions, including dementia.
So, someone who has been properly diagnosed with dementia, but has anosognosia, doesn’t know or believe that they have dementia.
However, anosognosia symptoms may vary significantly from person to person, change over time, and might even fluctuate within a day.
The person might sometimes understand what’s happening and other times firmly believe that they’re completely fine.
And depending on their level of self-awareness, other people might only be partially aware that there’s something wrong.
The unawareness of cognitive impairment can be related to memory, general thinking skills, emotions, or physical abilities.
They might have occasional difficulty with language skills, like finding words, but they can explain away these situations with excuses about forgetfulness or fatigue.
And even if they forget to bathe, miss appointments, or burn food on the stove, they’re still likely to insist that they don’t need help.
They’ll probably also insist that they’re absolutely capable of living independently – despite clear evidence that things are going wrong.
If someone reminds them of their cognitive impairment, someone with anosognosia may get angry and defensive because in their mind they’re 100% convinced that there is no problem.
Anosognosia in dementia isn’t the same as denial
It’s important to understand that someone who has anosognosia in dementia isn’t just being difficult or in denial – this is something different.
When someone is in denial, they are aware of a fact, but refuse to accept it.
With anosognosia, the damage that dementia is causing in their brain makes it impossible for that person to be aware of what’s happening to them.
6 ways to help when someone has anosognosia in dementia
1. Don’t try to convince them they have dementia
Using reason and evidence to explain or insist that someone has dementia is not going to help.
It will only upset them and will likely make them even more convinced that they’re right and you’re wrongly discrediting them.
A more effective strategy is to discreetly make changes that will help them live safely.
And overall, stay calm and focused on their feelings when expressing your concerns and keep your comments as subtle and positive as possible.
2. Work with their doctors and care team
When your older adult’s dementia symptoms are interfering with their daily lives, it’s time to start working with their care team – including doctors, relatives, friends, in-home caregivers, or assisted living staff.
Explain the problems your older adult is having and help the team understand that they aren’t aware of their dementia and why it won’t help to try to convince them logically.
Work together to creatively provide your older adult the support they need with the activities of daily living without waiting for them to ask for help or forcing them to admit there’s a problem.
3. Discreetly make their life as safe as possible
Making your older adult’s everyday life simpler and safer can help prevent someone with anosognosia in dementia from hurting themselves or others.
Some people might try to drive, manage money, cook, or do other activities that could be dangerous because of their cognitive impairment.
Without mentioning dementia as the reason, you may need to make changes like finding creative ways to stop them from driving, working together so you can prevent problems with finances, making the kitchen safer, or making the home safer overall.
Use positive approaches and present it as removing burdens from their life so they can do more of what they enjoy rather than doing chores.
Focus on allowing them to do as much as they can independently while yourself or another caregiver is available to help when needed or observe for safety.
Finding ways to help that still preserve pride will be most effective.
For example, you might say that you don’t enjoy eating alone or you want to spend more quality time together so you want to eat dinner with them.
Or, say that you have some amazing new recipes you need their help to taste-test so you’ll leave the prepared dishes in their fridge to eat during the week.
Others have found it effective to use different ways to introduce an in-home caregiver so it won’t seem like the older adult needs help.
4. Avoid correcting them and having confrontations; pick your battles
When someone has dementia, their brain may experience a different version of reality because of the damage the disease has caused.
Dementia care experts recommend stepping into their reality rather than trying to correct them.
Their brain is losing the ability to process information and forcing them to join the “real world” only causes confusion, anxiety, fear, and anger.
If something is a serious safety issue, you may have no choice but to insist on doing things your way.
But as much as you can, try to solve problems without them knowing, choose your battles, and let the non-serious things go to avoid conflict as much as possible – stress only makes challenging dementia symptoms worse.
5. Present solutions positively and subtly
The less your older adult feels that they’re being limited for reasons they don’t understand, the less likely they are to become angry or resist help.
Generally, when someone has anosognosia, it helps to be creative and offer solutions in a positive way rather than talking about the problem.
For example, you might say, “It’s a beautiful day outside. Let’s go for a walk together so we can both enjoy the fresh air.”
That’s positive and much easier to accept than if you had said, “ You know you can’t go outside alone, you’ll fall or get lost. I have to go with you.”
Or, offer a compromise with a positive incentive, like “Let’s clean the house together so we’ll be done twice as fast and have plenty of time to watch your favorite show.”
Reminding them about taking medicine can also be done in a positive way.
For example, say “It’s time for both of us to take our medicine. We both need these to keep ourselves in tip-top health.” (If you don’t need any medications at that time, you could “take” mini M&Ms, tiny breath mints, or something else that appears to be a pill, but is harmless. Keep them in a pill bottle to make them look more real.)
6. Learn more about dementia and dementia care techniques
Many of the most effective dementia care and communication techniques aren’t easily figured out and might even be the opposite of our instincts.
Not knowing these helpful techniques can cause added frustration and stress for both you and your older adult. That’s why educating yourself is so important.
Learning as much as you can about the disease helps you solve top challenges and improves quality of life for both of you.
Try these helpful resources:
- Alzheimer’s Association
- 3 Stages of Dementia: What to Expect
- 6 Must-Read Alzheimer’s Books for Caregivers
- 11 Caregiver Support Groups on Facebook You’ll Want to Join
- More dementia care articles
Recommended for you:
- 9 Best Alzheimer’s and Dementia Books for Caregivers
- 3 Stages of Dementia: What to Expect
- Therapeutic Fibbing: Why Experts Recommend Lying to Someone with Dementia
By DailyCaring Editorial Team